A message from Anonymous
What are your views on cultural appropriation and how would you counter arguments that support it or brush it off as "non-offensive"?
"Is Being Childfree By Choice Selfish?
Short answer: Fuck off.
Longer answer: That’s a trick question to which there’s no good answer. And the reason it’s a trick question is because “selfish,” the way it is being used there (and in most discussions of whether being deliberately childless is “selfish”) does not merely mean “prioritizing oneself and one’s interests,” but is loaded with ten metric fucktons of societal expectation that every human being has a duty to reproduce, coupled with the commonly-held belief that the deliberately childless are breaking some sort of natural law that commands every adult human prioritize procreation over pursuits that outsiders may deem inappropriately self-indulgent, and the intractable commonly-drawn inference that those who don’t reproduce (when they can) are tacitly standing in silent condemnation of the choice of those who do, and the weird right that many people assert to have to judge others’ choices and proclaim it “selfish” if anyone prefers to prioritize their own lives over the lives of imaginary children they don’t want to have.
The problem with the question is that “selfish” in these discussions usually means: You’re not doing with your life what I think you should be doing with it!"
"I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations. If we don’t vibrate on the same frequency there’s just no reason for us to waste our time. I’d rather have no one and wait for substance than to not feel someone and fake the funk."
Joquesse Eugenia (via de-licacy)
my suite in a nutshell